4 Day "Welcoming our Daughters at the Threshold of Womanhood"  Summer Camp - 30th August - 2nd September, 2018.
As the mother of a pre teen girl are you worried about the pressures and influences she is facing in today's culture as she grows?
Are you concerned about how you can help her?
Welcoming our Daughters, Welcoming Ourselves is a four day programme offering tools to help you support your daughter and improve your relationship with her. It is also an opportunity to explore your own story as a woman.
Do you remember your own experience of becoming a woman? How were you met?
Supporting our daughters as they mature may be a challenge for us if we were not honoured or respected as we entered our own womanhood.
We have lost contact with the rites of passage of traditional cultures that helped young people step into their adulthood feeling strong and like they belonged. In 'Welcoming our daughters, Welcoming ourselves' we will workshop how to create meaningful rites of passage for you and your daughter as she matures. You can read more about our thoughts on this at the end of this page.
Our program is fun, creative and informative. We will work with arts and crafts, story telling, singing, drumming and connecting with nature with the girls. There will be sessions with skilled and compassionate facilitation for mothers without our daughters present to explore our journeys as women.
We will weave ceremony, circle, teaching and sharing. Together we will remember and celebrate our wisdom, offer a taste of the healthy feminine to our daughters and nurture ourselves.
The intention is to offer our daughters a real sense of blessing for who they are, unique and separate to us. To impart to them some of the magic and magnificence of womanhood.
The program is designed for 8 to 13 year olds and their mothers. You know your daughter best and if you feel your daughter may fall outside this age range but you are drawn to this please do get in touch.

We will be camping in gorgeous Sussex countryside together, with basic facilities. We will share responsibility for the running of the camp, including preparing food collectively and sharing the day to day tasks of tending and caring for ourselves. 

Facilitated by Jill Kettle, Samsara Tanner, Jamila and Samantha Eddison.
Jill is a mother, acupuncturist, doula, Shadow Work coach and workshop leader with many years of experience working with women. She co founded the Brighton Red Tent and created and delivers her year course 'Welcoming our Daughters at the Threshold of Womanhood, Welcoming Ourselves'. She is passionate about the women's mysteries and is a graduate of the School of Shamanic Womancraft. You can read more about here elsewhere on this site.
Samsara Tanner is an experienced Doula, childbirth educator and rites of passage facilitator for women and girls. She created and ran a program for many years in Australia called "personal Journeys" for primary year old girls, celebrating their passage from young girl to maiden. She is a Grandmother, an elder and wise woman of great love and experience (samsaradoula.co.uk).
£200 - £300 per mother and daughter pair. Meals and snacks included.
Begins 3 pm on 30th August and ends with a celebration lunch on 2nd September.

Testimonials from previous retreats.

Wow what a weekend. It was life changing. I will never forget it. Neither will Lily. She loved it.  Its up there on the list of best ever things I've done. Lily and I loved sharing the whole experience with you. I feel as if I connected with parts of myself I had left behind and I feel so much more present now. Thank you all for being so brave and honest and real.
I'm amazed at how important it is just to be present when parenting. I can see my and Lilys relationship blossom even now after just a few days.
Thanks so so much. Feeling rebooted in my relationship with Mimi and in myself- thank you thank you! What a wonderful experience to be in a space of such openness and honesty. Thank you all for giving Mimi a wonderful boost in her confidence and a newfound pride in her femininity!! 
Thanks so much everyone for an amazing time. It felt like we were able to delve deep, be open and honest and share the collective wounded feminine with compassion and acceptance, celebrate our daughters with joy and insight and be nourished in body and soul. All in 3 days!! Life changing emotional rollercoaster of a retreat! Still processing it.
"I feel so blessed to be part of the supported circle for mothers welcoming their daughters over the threshold of womanhood. It has been an enriching and powerful journey and has brought a lot of healing into our lives for which I am deeply grateful. Jill is a skilled and dedicated facilitator, bringing so much of her passion for personal growth and healing into what she offers. I would enthusiastically encourage other mothers and daughters to get involved with this rites of passage course. It is invaluable work." (Riga)
"I loved the 'rites of passage camp' and can't wait to go again. I felt so connected there in the community of mothers & daughters, as we talked about the different stages of growing up, and our bodies. Thanks again Jill x x x" (Anoushka aged 10)

"For me, the mother's circles Jill holds were powerful and beautiful. I loved the way Jill held the space with love, integrity, openness and assurance. Whatever came up I felt in safe caring hands. I found the processes potent and offering deep healing.
The Mother and Daughter weekend was a joy from start to finish.
My daughter LOVED it. She loved being in a community of women, singing and sharing and playing and having time to simply be together. It was a rare treasure for me to have one to one time with my daughter and so nourishing for our relationship. It was also such a valued gift to feel so looked after by Jill, fed delicious and nutritious food, to be held with care and have time to be with my daughter and my friends without any need to do any work or any obligation".
My deepest gratitude (Dawn, participant 2016).

Some more thoughts......

As our girls approach their initiation into womanhood, how can we best hold and nourish them and ourselves at this transitional time? How can we foster the knowing in our daughters that it is magnificent and good to be a woman and fully live that in our own lives?

In all earth based traditional cultures, girls and boys were held through their initiations by elders as they grew up. Our culture has mostly lost this soul based practice which orientated and channeled life force in a healthy way and enabled young people to have positive and life affirming experiences as they transitioned into young adulthood. How can we once again claim our potential to hold this space for the young people in our lives?

This process is about finding our own ways to support our young girls that are meaningful and appropriate for them. It is about tending to ourselves as women so we can bring more resources and self-awareness to our lives and to our children. This is about recognising and honouring the feminine journey as it is expressed through them and in us.

As we embody being true to ourselves and welcoming our own stories more fully, we nourish acceptance and trust in their unique journeys. We are all part of a culture that has aspects that may worry us concerning the pressures on young women at this time. By working with being authentic in ourselves and comfortable with all of who we are, our children absorb a healthy sense of what being a woman is about. This is something they can integrate and source their lives from.

As we bring more awareness to the wounds and stories of our youth we lessen the likelihood that painful things will be energised in us as our children mature. Our wounds can be our openings for healing. When we are held with love in those wounded places we have an experience which means we can hold something for our children because we have been held. This supports the healing of intergenerational wounds which may have been passed down for many generations. In a supportive environment, we can explore how to stay attentive to the unconscious and often powerful forces that can impact on what we pass down to our children.

We will examine our own transitions and our rites of passage as women. How were we met at the gates of our births, our first bleeding, our childbirths? How have these experiences influenced us, and the patterns that play out in our lives? How might these stories block or stand in the way of our ability to support our daughters in their own process of transitioning into women? How can we know ourselves more deeply and understand how our wounds have served us?
We appreciate that our girls initiation into woman hood is a complex and multifaceted happening, that emerges through her growing body and is influenced by so many things within our culture both as a family and in the bigger context of the society in which we live. We have no interest in imposing a fixed idea of what celebration of the becoming woman process might look like for a particular family. We feel passionately that if we have a space where all of us is welcome, we can explore with curiosity, playfulness and respect what it might be to allow our daughters and ourselvs to emerge with a deepening sense of what is real and true for each of us. How many of us as mothers where not given the space to be honoured for what we are or where? We recognise the difficulties that this can bring and offer time and space to tend these explorations of what was and wasn t possible for us. We understand that for us to be able to really celebrate and hold our children we may need to tend to ourselves and make conscious things that we were not able to in our younger years.
To be Human
is to become visible while carrying what is hidden as a gift to others.
What urgency calls you to your one love?
What shape awaits in the seed of you to grow and spread its branches against a future sky?

(David Whyte)